Which partner would you choose?

I created a pros and cons list of two potential partners. Which would you think would make a better partner?

#1

He's the father of my children.

We are comfortable together.

We are best friends

He is stable.

My family likes him

I am not sexually attracted to him.

He has hurt me a lot by ignoring me and my needs, choosing friends over spending time with me.

Every step in our relationship was me pushing for it to happen. His reluctance makes me feel unloved.

He does not want a big family.

He does not like change or doing anything out of the ordinary.

#2

My heart is so full when I see him.

We are best friends

We are comfortable together

I am sexually attracted to him

His sex drive is equal to mine

He wants to have a big family.

We are very much alike in the way we see the world and things that we like to do.

He is like the male version of myself.

He has a lot of issues. Job, car, mental health.

He has hurt me a lot by the things he has done and said during our relationship. Being pushy, destructive out of anger, threatening to end it over small things.

Has a big fear of someone lying to him or not committing due to past relationship trauma.

My family does not like him.