Hey everyone I’m new to this app and this page but my wife has been using it for over a year since she was pregnant with our first. On here just asking does anyone else carry the guilt of working and having a million things in their mind ?

Back story I’m in the Military and my wife and I agreed when we got pregnant the first time she would stay home and raise the little ones while I worked and grew my career. We currently have a 15 month old and recently found out we have another on the way.

I currently work anywhere from 10 to 13 hour days with a few field exercises here and there from 3 days to 3 weeks. But when I am home I cook dinner every night, I take my daughter when I get home and before work. I clean our house when everyone goes to bed, I make their breakfast along with my food for the day ( I am going to be competing in a body building show in 6 months so I meal prep daily) I do maintenance on our cars and our yard along with starting college this next semester. I’m not on here wanting any praise because honestly my father didn’t do anything when I was a child besides work so I have no issue doing the things I do.

However my wife has been treated for PPA, and I believe she still has it. She is constantly either nagging or raging in me for the smallest things and constantly telling me how hard her job is with our child for 10 plus hours a day. I have never once given her any doubt or any flak for not doing more because I know when I have my daughter for a half a day I’m tired let alone for multiple weeks with no break.

My question is with all of that being said I have immense guilt for working so much and being gone even though I try and make up for it by doing what seems like LITERALLY everything else around our house beside handling finances. My wife went to college with people who were very rich and I did not. I feel she wants a life of ease to where I have had to claw for everything I have. I only know how to work hard and it seems like it’s driving a wedge in my marriage