Ex Boyfriend is PSYCHOTIC MANCHILD
Long story short, my ex and first ever boyfriend is PSYCHOTIC. This will be long. We met in 2015 online through gaming when I was 13 and he was 16. I was attracted to him in every way. He just made everything seem right. Then some things went downhill from there. If I didn’t send him nudes, he would threaten to kill himself and would send a photo of a gun against his head. I should’ve left then, but I was 13 and thought I was in love with someone. We then met in 2017, and the first thing he was wanted to do with me was get a blowjob. I reluctantly accepted to and then we hung out after that, but I thought this was how relationships were supposed to be. After seeing him every month during the weekends, I started to notice things that would piss me off. He had a horrible taste in music. I’m very open to any kind of music, will listen to anything, or find interest in any genre, but he ONLY listened to mumble rappers. It was horrible. Second, he claimed he had a “texturized eating disorder.” I’ve done all my research on this and I could never find anything on it. Long story short, he would only ever eat fast food every day, fried chicken, fried, and grilled cheese. He would never try anything else because he said he knew from “looking” at its texture that he wouldn’t like it. He would also make his mom cook him everything. One time we got home and he said “Mom, could you cook me some toast?” I was annoyed that he couldn’t have done it himself. Third of all, and the worst one, his friends and his sense of humor. Now, I love me some good dark humor. It’s fine to poke fun at some of the experiences we have had, but the 3 of them went way over line. They would constantly joke about being pedophiles (which is ironic due to what I tell you later…), raping people, lynching black people, saying the n word with the hard r, being homophobic to people over voice chat, and stuff like that. I just had to sit back and laugh and participate uncomfortably because I felt like this was in the contract of being with him. Next, he didn’t drive. We lived 3 hours apart, and it would always be me driving to his house, or my dad driving me to his house. If he ever did come to me, his dad would drive him halfway and me and my dad would pick him up. He said he was “too afraid” of the highway or not comfortable enough. I was driving on the highway at 17…like come on dude. That’s not even the worst part, then his two best friends started to target me, and my ex would sit back and watch it unfold, sometimes even participate in it. They then began to make fun of me on the daily for my race, calling me “chinky eyes.” My ex would often send me memes of Chinese men and say “Look it’s your dad.” My family isn’t Chinese…. And it would confuse me because then he would turn around a few hours later and sexualize me saying I have the perfect Japanese schoolgirl figure. Now, I know some guys are into Asians, that’s fine, but when you’re sexualizing them is when it’s wrong. Then, his friends would constantly be racist towards me, and even got to the point where they would taunt me for being bisexual asking which side I was “leaning towards” on a particular day. Don’t worry, the story gets WORSE. It’s 2019, I go on an expensive beach trip with his family that they graciously paid for my part because they know I’m low-income and that they are MILLIONAIRES. During the trip, I went into my boyfriends phone to take a photo on snap of us together, and it hits me then. Plenty of girls. Some disclosing to him that they were 13 (He was 18 at the time of those convos, so there’s the pedophilia part I referred to before). I was so disgusted. But I reluctantly took his apology and figured things would get better after that because I supposed he was lonely since I wasn’t always around. I wanted to always give him the benefit of the doubt. 2019 Christmas, I surprised him with an all paid for Disney World vacation. I was being extremely generous paying for this because he knows it would only tap his wealth compared to mine. I worked overtime 3 weeks to afford HIS part of the costs, not even mine. Before the vacation in January, he texts me that he needs to tell me something that he can only “tell me in person” that could “ruin the relationship for forever.” He tells me this 15 hours before I have a major Chemistry exam. I tell him he can just call me and he says no it must be in person. He makes his best friend drive him to me, he sits me down, and says in 2017 he cheated on me by having sex with a girl at his college. I was stupid, and forgave him once again. Come the vacation, everything seems fine driving to Florida, and the first day me and my dad are up and ready to go to Magic Kingdom, and he’s still sleeping. I try waking him up for 20 minutes and he keeps pouting saying he doesn’t feel good and that he’s not going that day. I figured that was fine, but then comes everyday. He doesn’t get out of bed, eats the food WE buy him, plays video games on his phone, sleeps in until 3PM. He claims he’s suddenly terminally/chronically ill with something mysterious. Comes the last day we go to magic kingdom, I beg him to please just walk up to the castle, take ONE photo with me, and then he can leave. He says he doesn’t think his legs will let him. I leave in tears. 2nd to last day of the vacation, we have a reservation for a very nice restaurant. I ask him if he’s going, he says he might. I decide to give up then and there, and I got to the bathroom. Turns out while I was in the bathroom, my dad lectured him and told him he’s the “most self centered and selfish person he’s ever met and he needs to grow up if he’s acting like a little boy at 21 years old.” I come back out not knowing this and I asked him if he’s going, and NO LIE, he crosses his arm, pouts, and says like a 3 year old “No!” And brings the covers up to cover his face. I was so livid, I started screaming at him and broke up with him. I was afraid of being alone and thought he was the only one who would ever love me, so I got back with him a few weeks after the vacation. Come college, he stops texting me, giving me attention, doing any effort in the relationship. Sometimes I would see he was online but he would tell me he was sleeping during the day until 9PM. Bullshit. I broke up with him and never looked back. And immediately put myself out into the dating game 3 days later. I wasn’t looking for a rebound (frankly, there was nothing to rebound over 😂) so I met a handsome, attractive, sweet guy. That was 4 months ago. He is now my boyfriend. The difference between him and my ex is astonishing. My boyfriend is 22, like my ex. But MY OH MY, do you see the difference between a grown man and a man child?? He can drive, he has a job, he has a good taste in music, he can cook, he takes me out on dates, he doesn’t care about just “sex” (although the sex IS AMAZING). I feel like I was missing out on so much for 6 years of my life and I feel like an idiot. However, this story doesn’t end though. I wanted the money back from my ex from the vacation. He wasted me $1,400. I texted him asking him if he could pay me back, and he gets offended that I didn’t text him for an entire month and asked him how he was doing. WHY WOULD I WANT TO KNOW HOW YOU’RE DOING?? He then gets pissy with me saying the beach vacations his family brought me on were way more expensive than a Disney Vacation and I should be paying HIM back. It wasn’t worth it. I gave up and told him to have a nice life. 2 days later, I get a payment on cashapp from him labeled “sorry” for $100. Wow….so generous from a millionaire. I text him asking him why he didn’t send me 1400, and just 100, he ignores and says he’s sorry for the argument we had and he implied we were still a thing or we could still be….I didn’t say it but I was like…wtf we’ve literally been separated for a month with no contact. Then he professed his love for me, saying I’m his soul mate, and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I straight up told him to just get off my back that I’m with someone else and that will never happened. I did not say I was sorry. A week ago, I’m working, and I get a notification that my ex followed me on Instagram (I must’ve forgot to block him on there) and I immediately reject it. I again tell him there is no chance of us being friends in the slightest and I do not want him in my life. Then, yesterday, I am at work again and I get a notification that two accounts liked my most recent tik tok that has me and my boyfriend in it. I see the two usernames, and they look familiar. I click on the profiles, look at their videos, check the comments, and see their “main account” users. It’s his two best friends. They’re trying to mock me and my boyfriend and stalk us. I know I shouldn’t have, but I was fucking done. I messaged me ex, telling him to stop stalking me and to get a life. He plays stupid, and finally admits he knows what it is, and then again tells me I have to take it up with his two friends and he can’t do anything about it. Then, they all make multiple accounts, commenting on the video, harassing me, liking it, saying rude stuff in the comments. I then sent my FINAL goodbye to my ex. I think I got all my anger out. But that’s it. This is my psychotic man child ex. Sorry for the long read. Yes, I have blocked him and his friends on everything. If they continue contact or interaction in any form I will be contacting the police.
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