What’s your typical day look like as a SAHM?

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I’m a stay at home mama to 2 littles and I’m struggggling lately!!! I’m so exhausted physically and mentally. I feel like I never have me time. I’m constantly worried about what the kids are going to eat, cleaning the house, keeping up with laundry, I want them to be smart and so I plan activities (which drains me), I honestly get obsessed with this because I feel so guilty that I don’t have the energy for it that I overwork myself and then shut down and just put the tv on…but then I feel super guilty about that. Ugh. It’s never ending .
Also having my almost one year old be very clingy and cry always is extremely frustrating. I’m becoming the mom I never wanted to be I feel like. I’m distant. I don’t want to be around my kids much. They irritate me. 
I just feel like I have poor management skills maybe? I also get overwhelmed easily as well. And I’m very like everything needs to be perfect and if it’s not I get anxious. 
Any tips?

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My girls are almost 3 and 17 months (pregnant with #3 
Wake up time 7:30am
8:00am ish breakfast
Then they watch some cartoons while I do laundry and clean up the kitchen
9:30ish snack time
I will play with them for awhile until lunch
11:30 lunch time
12:30 nap time (they both nap from 12:30-2:00/2:30
Once they wake up we have another snack and do some kind of activity. If it’s nice we go outside a lot
5:30 dinner
7:00pm bath time
8:00pm bedtime. 
It was very important to get them on the same nap schedule so I was able to get stuff done around the house or to just be able to sit and watch tv by myself.

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I have ADHD and had a REALLY hard time with time management and perfectionism before my son was born. I see a therapist regularly for depression/anxiety and that helped a ton. 
One thing that helped me get better at creating and maintaining a routine was FlyLady. My mom has used that system for years and I started it recently. My house is now always clean, or at least clean enough that I wouldn’t be embarrassed by a drop-in visitor, which is a huuuuge improvement! Check out flylady.net. There’s a free app called FlyLady Plus that goes along with that system. You only have to pay if you want the actual lessons, but the app is useful even if you don’t follow the system to a T.
Something else that helps me is “something worth doing, is worth doing badly.” 
Basically, doing something is better than doing nothing at all. It’s okay to vacuum around things instead of picking everything up off the floor. At least it got vacuumed. Brushing your hair and throwing it in a ponytail instead of curling it takes less time and effort, and it’s better than not doing anything.

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When can your husband watch the kids so you have time to yourself? I stay home with 4 kids (we homeschool), Im very introverted so if I dont get my time, my mood suffers greatly.
Also try Numberblocks and Alphablocks on youtube, it's tv they can watch without guilt lol

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We don’t have a super consistent schedule because children are chaos and we go with the flow.
I think you should figure out how to expect less perfection. Decide what you want to prioritize, and let a bunch of other things go, because trying to do everything is impossible and exhausting and leads to burnout.
Kids benefit way way more from a calm happy mom than they ever do from a clean house and cute activities planned for them. 
And they don’t need activities to be smart. Read to them lots, and teach them how to handle frustration. And then let them come up with their own ways to play. Little kids learn so much more from unstructured play time than they do from adult-curated activities. With child-led play they’re learning dozens of things all at once, as opposed to adult-led activities where they’re learning one or two things.

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6:00- I wake up. Make coffee. Make my husband's lunch. 
6:15-6:30- Drink coffee in peace.
6:30/6:45- Kids wake up. We hang out, play, watch TV and have a small snack while I finish coffee. 
7:30- Go upstairs and make breakfast. I will do the dishes while the kids eat. 
8:30- Get infant ready for nap. 
8:45- lay infant down for nap. Go upstairs, clean up breakfast mess while my toddler runs around or draws. Start laundry and take out trash. 
9:15-9:30- Kahn Academy on the tablet with my toddler.
9:30-10:15- Either get ready for the day, if we have errands to run, OR do a craft/baking activity with my toddler. 
10:15- Wake up toddler and get ready to leave the house or just play. 
11:45- Start making lunch, switch over laundry.
12:30- Get infant ready for nap and toddler ready for quiet time.
12:45- lay infant down, and put toddler in her room for quiet time.
12:50-13:20- Clean up kitchen from lunch. Make my lunch and eat it. 
13:20-13:50- Do dishes. Switch over and start laundry. Do small tasks (clean up clutter, dust, wipe down appliances). 
13:50-14:00- Make espresso
14:00-14:30- Fold laundry and drink espresso while watching TV.
14:30- Get toddler up from quiet time. Feed her a snack and switch over laundry. 
15:00- Wake up infant. Play or run afternoon errands.
16:20- Start dinner for kids.
17:00- Take kids downstairs to play. 
17:50- Start bedtime routine for infant
18:10- Lay infant down
18:10-18:40- Get toddler a snack, turn on TV for her. Clean up toys and vacuum. 
18:40- Start bedtime routine for toddler.
18:50- Lay toddler down.
18:50-19:30- make dinner for us.
19:30- eat dinner then clean up kitchen. Scoop cat litter. 
20:30- Shower
20:45-21:15- Watch TV, fold laundry, have a snack. 
21:30- bedtime. 
I bathe my toddler on Tuesdays and Saturdays and my infant on Wednesdays and Sundays. I bathe them during the day, as to not have a chaotic evening.

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Not a SAHM, but just know you aren't alone in your feelings. I love my son to absolute death, he's my world, and I work fulltime and by the end of the weekend I'm exhausted and drained and so ready for daycare on Monday. Props to you stay at home Moms!! It isn't for the weak! He was awful today and I just put him to bed an hour early because I couldn't take it anymore and kept yelling at him. I feel you with the Mom guilt.

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Not a SAHM but I am a single mom to a 7 year old and soon to be 2 year old. 
Kids get up at 6:40 am stay in PJs have something small a light to eat. ( drop them to my moms in their pjs) 
7am: leave to drop them off at my moms, for 7:30 am (daughter school is 30 seconds from my moms & my son stays at my moms while I work in the morning attend school in afternoon) 
8:45 - oldest goes to school
3:10 oldest is picked up from school 
Her and my youngest will sometimes have dinner at my moms if I’m not back by 5
I typically pick them up at 5-530 home by 5:50
Another snack or dinner at 6:30 
7:00 bath and pjs snuggles 
7:30 pm bed for the 2 kids

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