This last year with my daughter has been such a struggle. I have shared custody with her dad I havent been able to shake this feeling that she may have been sexually abused at least once while she was in his care. It's not anything she has said outloud. It's like an intuitive feeling. As the years pass she is more closed off. She doesn't talk about her feelings. She used to have these recurring nightmares that she couldn't find me and she would wake up crying. That was from 1st grade up to 5th grade. I have asked her if anyone have touched her in a way that made her feel bad or uncomfortable and she says no. I don't know if she is telling me the truth or not since she has been keeping things from me and won't tell me about her feelings.. How do I make her feel like she can tell me anything?

What makes me think this even more is her behavior. In the last year I had to make her delete snapchat for taking inappropriate picture of herself. During the summer I caught her with a thc wax pen. I found videos of her and her friend drinking alcohol. She's had a boyfriend for about a year now. The only place they have been together that I know of is school and church. Against my better judgment I finally let her go out to a holloween party. She now is pregnant. Im so lost. She wants to terminate the pregnancy. She has such a bitter feeling about this like it's worse than cancer. I have always been pro life and now I am considering letting her go through with it. She doesn't want a child and isn't ready to have one. She just turned 14 in August. The hurt that a child can go through because their mother doesn't love them seems so damaging. I want to know if there are any other moms that have been through anything like this either in a parent perspective or the child perspective. I need some sort of direction.