When did everyone get their faint lines?

Feel like this forum has set my expectations to get a faint line at the very least and when I don’t get I get soooo upset.

When did everyone receive their faint lines? I test at 5 days before AF is due and 9 DPO, which I know is early but it’s hard not to be disheartened by it. Feel I have an unrealistic expectation to get a faint line.