Can’t tell if my OB is bad or not

So I have an OB that is…nice.

I am an overweight diabetic that has been going to her for 3 years. I’ve been TTC for years and Every 6 months or so, she’ll tell me to lose 10% of my weight and manage my sugars better (justified) and to come back in 6 months but that’s it. Fast forward, I, miraculously, got pregnant naturally and when I went in for my first pregnancy appt with her, she seemed almost annoyed that I got pregnant?

She was very short with me, asked quick questions and was like hmm you should be worried and get it together but see you next time. I left that appt crying and scared. Every appointment since then, she’s seen that baby is doing okay, anatomy is good so far, blood sugars are getting better, so she seems to get a little nicer each time.

Even then, my visits with her are short and to the point. No teaching.. “do you have any questions for me? No? okay let’s check you with doppler..all looks good okay see you in 4 weeks.” And boom done.

Sometimes the MA will walk me out and say I have labs, and I’m like “oh? For what” “you know, spina bifida and stuff” “Um, okay?”

Is this a normal experience or should I change OBs?

Im 19w now and I feel like since I’m high risk already it would be hard to find an OB that would accept me.

I just don’t know if since I’m a diabetic and high risk I just have to shut up and if this is the treatment I’ll get wherever I go.