For anybody who’s been married less than 5 years

How has your marriage been? I am just curious about other people who are “newlyweds”. We’ve been married for 4 years now, and it’s been full of ups and downs. We discussed separation and divorce a few times, but in the end, always ended up compromising and staying together. And I know, the fact that we’ve even discussed getting divorced is bad, and yes, we’ve considered couples counselling, my husband won’t go though, and he’s actually changed a lot on his own.