why he won’t go down on me, HELPPP!!!

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in the beginning of our relationship i didn’t like going down on him so we had the agreement that i didn’t give, i didn’t expect. not once did he tell me the reason why. it’s now 8 months in our relationship and i love going down on him bc it pleasures him. now that i’m giving i’m expecting. he promised me he would one night and then never did, just skipped over it like it was nothing. he finally told me the reason why and it’s bc my ph balance is off and all us girls know when that happens it can bleach our underwear. well that’s the reason, he told me it wasn’t a bad smell but it wasn’t a sexy smell for him. idk what to do to help this. i want him to go down on me and i suggested the flavored lube that’s okay to be ingested, and he was 100000% unsure/ uncomfortable with it. what can i do please help me

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It sucks he didn't want to return the favor but it's his right to decide that. If you enjoy giving oral then it's up to you to keep doing it or not, just don't go the "well I'm holding off on it as retaliation or to coarse a change out of him" route because that leads to bitterness and resentment and it sounds like you guys are a good match sans the oral situation. Maybe try finding something else he's happy to do that pleases you specifically not totally mutually. Erotic massages, bubble bath and rubbing your feet for you, heck even just kissing your body up and down can be sensual when done with the right intentions. Find something that puts you as his center of attention to help you guys find a balance

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he sounds like a bitch, lmao find someone else

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Do you have a shower beforehand? And stop going down on him.

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I never understood straight guys that dont like the smell or taste of pussy. Its literally the smell of female pheromones. If theyre straight, it should turn them on automatically, right ?

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Sounds to me no matter what you do he just won’t go down on you. Makes me wonder if he actually cares about your pleasure when you have sex 🤔

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He already told you he doesn’t want to do it cause he thinks your kitty is stank. Maybe stop giving him head or go to your gynecologist if anything it’s him throwing you off

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Some guys are self conscious of giving head. Maybe he’s worried he won’t be able to please you or won’t do it right ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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Stop suckin him if you ain’t getting in return. And hell no to the lube I’m with him on that. You should go to your dr to test for any bacteria that maybe causing your smell ,watch what you eat and drink. Water is the best route always. Wiping front to back and taking a shower before sex .if you use bottled soap stop 🛑, for washing down there The bar Dove white soap NOT the deep moisture one wash with a separate rag from your body ,keepin yo coochie shaved keeps the mustyness away and bacteria. Ion know I hope this help you get yo puss ate girl 🙌🏾🥰

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I dont think its right of you to not do it just bevause he wont. Do whatever you both enjoy. If hes not into doing that to you, he has every right just like how you didnt want to in the beginning, thats not an excuse, hes being honest. If its that much of a dealbreaker find another man that will do it, if its not then keep doing what makes you guys happy but dont make him feel bad because that can cause a whole lot of problems in the bedroom. Maybe he can use his hands more, or if it doesnt bother him clitoral stimulation with his tongue? I understand not wanting to drink all our fluids but the clit is more muscle than fluids. You can also introduce toys if you need something to get you going before just having sex.

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I wouldn’t go down on him anymore tho just stop for a bit

why he won’t go down on me, HELPPP!!!

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