Relationship question

When you and your spouse get mad at each other , are you petty towards him or is he a dick to you ? . We are currently mad at each other and he irritates me more when he’s so petty or rude without even saying anything to me . 🙄. I’m petty too and it was over something dumb but we are too prideful so we usually stay mad for a couple days if not 24hours at least. Am I the only one !? .