Umm am I okay

Soo my woman part is a bit demented she will not cooperate with me soooo I recently entered a relationship where we have a lot of sexual chemistry or whatever it's long distance tho and I really like what he does we have similar things we are into and I want to you know try my cooch out I'm obviously a virgin and I just wanna touch her and feel good umm I have put a finger up there and wiggles around in there I felt nothing maybe my fingers are too short cuz I do have small hands

Any advice?