Is this insulting? Or is he a baby?

Me and my ex reconnected recently and it started off fun but now? It’s fizzled.

He works out of state and told me his bartender, a girl, which he always emphasizes, asked if he was in the military. I asked why and he said idk and I laughed. He asked what was funny and I told him he doesn’t look military, and suggested it was his eagle tattoo.

Apparently that “fucking insulting”

I’m confused how???

He also constantly complains about his job so I’ve told him that he needs to find a new one where he’s not moving and can be near family.

Well I guess that’s an insult too cause he’s a “grown man who can make his own decisions”