I hate how much I think? Trying to get pregnant but don’t know when the right time is..

Question

Ugh! Ladies. Does anyone else over think? Everything?!? 
Me and hubby and ready to start trying. I’ve been taking my prenatals, we started working out, and eating better. I’ve upped my water intake and stopped smoking weed. I even got off my anti depressants which was a LOOOONG and hard process. But here I am! :) 
Anyways, all I think about is “if I start trying now, and happened to get pregnant right away, I would have my baby in august. That means I would be hella pregnant during 4th of July and we usually always go camping then.”
“If we start now, what if it takes many months and then the baby is a winter baby? I don’t wanna have my baby in the freezing cold.” 
“What if I struggle to get pregnant?”
“I also don’t want to be hella pregnant in the summer because I heard that’s miserable.”
“I don’t wanna have a baby near the holidays cause that’s a lot of work with birthdays and holidays” 
Like literally I’m being so picky I’m annoying myself! 
How can I help these thoughts? Anyone else?

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By your logic, any time of the year is a bad time to be pregnant. Are you sure you're ready? Could this be an excuse to not try yet? I haven't been able to plan any of my pregnancies (all 3 were on birth control and we weren't actively trying). But I got pregnant with my first in mid-January, on Christmas with my 2nd, and sometime end of November/beginning of December with my 3rd. All 3 pregnancies we're calm and i enjoyed being pregnant tbh.

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I had thoughts like that and I was stressed out. Every month I got a negative test and was sad as hell. Then I stopped over thinking. I kept drinking on the weekends and enjoying my sex life with my husband. Once I stopped stressing, boom pregnant. Now I’m due in March and just feel so lite in my heart.

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Ok this is 💯 me. I seriously overthink EVERYTHING all the time. I had many of those same thoughts as you. After several months of trying, I've learned that there will never be a magical perfect time and that if you try to find that perfect time you probably won't get pregnant that month anyway. A healthy couple only has something like 20-30% chance of successfully conceiving each month they try. Then even after successfully conceiving, babies can be born super early or they can come late, etc. 
With each negative test, I've come more to terms with the fact that I just really want a baby no matter if the timing seems perfect or not, it will be worth it. I dont have any real great advise since I'm an overthinker myself too, but just try to remind yourself that the timing will always have both pros and cons and that at the end of the day the baby will come when its ready and it will be so wonderful that any minor inconvenience of the timing won't matter.

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I had similar thoughts when I was trying to get pregnant with my first, all I can say is there honestly is never a perfect time of year to be pregnant. I had a winter baby (January) and it really wasn’t bad at all. Those first couple months it was nice to snuggle up in the house and as it got nicer outside we were able to go on walks and baby was a little older and more able to enjoy the outdoors.

I hate how much I think? Trying to get pregnant but don’t know when the right time is..

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