Is it cheating if my boyfriend hires a dominatrix behind my back?

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If it wasn't previously discussed that he could hire one and you feel like its cheating...then its cheating.

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He isn’t your boyfriend as soon as you decide he isn’t … ask yourself if anyone titled your boyfriend should do this…

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Was this something you ever talked about. What you consider cheating. Some people only think cheating is having penetration sex. They don’t see porn or fan only or a dominatrix as cheating. Depending on the situation. Some don’t actually have sex or oral etc. it’s an outlet. An escape from reality. Sometimes they feel their partner wouldn’t be down with what they want to try. Or would make them feel ashamed. Which is why they go behind your back. You need to talk to him. Define what is acceptable or not if you have never had this discussion. Either be open to try new things or find out what exactly goes on with her. Sometimes traumatic experiences earlier in life cause the behavior. If you’ve only been abused or belittled or mistreated, it’s how you connect to a person or what you are used to. Perhaps you have rejected some of his fetishes in the past or never wanted you to look at him differently. You need to have a talk clearly this makes you uncomfortable. Sometimes it can be a shock the requests that a dom does with their submissive. But they don’t judge them. They go with the flow and are open minded and not judged. It’s an outlet to let off steam basically is how they see it.

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Only Person who can answer this poll is you.

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Yeah definitely cheating