Just going to share a bit of my story. A little over 2 years ago I was dating someone who I’d known for a long time. Everything seemed great & my family loved him at first. Then I got engaged, during the engagement I got pregnant. I found out he was trying to cheat on me with people that were close to me more than once on the same day I found out I was pregnant 😅 so I finally tell him & he acts as if his life is over ( I know a red flag) we decided to try to push through it all and go on with the wedding because well he was raised so amazing I thought he would be a great father . The day of the wedding he never got me a wedding band because he didn’t believe in them so he ran around town trying to find one the day of! ( I didn’t know this all till later). So we get married and move in together (I had no say so in what house or what car we got) I had an awful pregnancy, he told me I wasn’t going to be fat and lazy afterwards , he told me he wasn’t attracted too me . At 22 weeks I went in the hospital on bed rest, no showers, a catheter was in , the whole 9 yards. My water was punctured and I was leaking fluids and my baby was at a very high risk! They pumped me full of magnesium and I felt like I was dying! When I got home I stayed with my mom because the comments and thing that went on with my husband and I had come to dislike him and I knew he wouldn’t take care of me. As soon as he walked me to the bedroom (because I couldn’t hardly walk) he asked me “ can I go party now” and was serious . Before that there were several times he would leave me at home till very early in the morning to go drink and do whatever . When I finally had our baby she ripped me so bad I need 2 layers of stitches on top of each other so again I couldn’t hardly move and my recovery time was doubled . He would come home after “ work” and cuss and ask why did the house look like it did , saying I didn’t do anything all day long . I did not trust him to watch our baby because the only time I did was when I had to go get a bath and I want to fix her a bottle because he did not know hell and I would take her in there and say OK she needs to be fed and he would be playing his video games and he would just sit home in his lap facing the TV and he would leave her there the entire time and when I got out of the bath I would walk in there and ask why hasn’t she been said and he would give me the excuse of “well she just didn’t wanna eat” truth be told he just didn’t wanna stop playing his game to feed her. He never got up at night and if she woke him up he would cuss at me . There was times he got upset and put his fist through the wall. He got so upset one day that he beat our bedroom door down. We had only been married for 7 months and our baby was only 2 months old. He isolated me, didn’t give me gas money or money for anything but would buy him all kinds of expensive things . He acted as if me and our baby didn’t exist every evening . If I cooked he either took it to his gaming room or watched something on his phone to ignore me. I later found out he was cheating a lot and had 2 snapchats and numerous instagram and Facebook accounts. I finally divorced him when he tried to cheat on me with my cousin which was a 16 yr old boy in the next room to me while me and his baby were asleep. After that we went back and forth for a year with lawyers because he wanted to take my baby from me “ for revenge “ he said . Girls please look for the signs & red flags. Do not ignore them! I now am doing much better! I have a great job and sole custody of our little girl! Get out of those narcissistic relationships! Get away from the lying and the cheating , they don’t change but you can do so much better without them! This is just a short version of my story , I didn’t include all the details of the mental abuse and other things but I hope it helps someone if they are seeing or hearing the same things from a spouse.