So my husband and I hardly talk now. We live in different places and our chats go like this.

Past midday, he will text good morning love. I live in different time zone so I wake up and find the message or sometimes when I don't, I greet him.

Then nothing until night time. He might ask how are you love or not. When am going to bed I say good night.

Same thing next day. One month in and out. We used to TALK. For hours. Our chats were long. He would tell me all about his day and I about mine. Then the long chats stopped and I told him I missed them, I continued but would get not reply. Soon I gave up. We continued active chatting and then it too died out. All this while I kept telling him I miss our talking. But nothing changed. And I gave up on that too.

Past months I noticed he doesn't tell me anything he is about to do or anything coming up. But will tell me I went to this event last week. Or did this yesterday. Sometimes, and Sometimes not tell me at all. so I told him there was a time I used to pride myself in knowing where he was and what his life looked like, I never felt the distance. But now, I have no clue what he is up to and with who. Sometimes I see him online when I check and he is always online when I check. I am not online for more than 5 minutes at a time because I am also taking care ofqq our girl and that consumes a lot of my time.

Today he met up with my friend and her bf and told me after he was home. I still mentioned he now only tells me about Past events. "He said because we don't talk" and I told him I have been trying to tell him that for the longest time and all I got was "I try" but today he said "I don't buy into that notion that I should tell you what am up to like I used to" I was shocked, how rude! but I politely asked him "what changed?" Then he said "I say it is his fault" I tried to tell him saying am blaming him doesnt help the discussion. He then said I act suspicious of him. And that is what changed. Pretty much saying am to blame that he doesn't tell me anything anymore. Ironically after saying I blame him, he was blaming me. I bit my tongue and said nothing more.

I have never stopped him from going anywhere or be with anyone. He basically did what he wanted and I enjoyed hearing how he is enjoying his life. I trusted him so much that when he would go out, sometimes with girls, and come back and tell me the girl kissed him, I believed him. The only time I was truly mad was when he flirted with an ex lover (they never dated because she rejected him) and I found out. I asked him to stop talking about her and he refused then later lied he had stopped, only for him to show me his phone to distract me while I was in labour and her photo popped up. From then I did feel betrayed and questioned his words because he had lied to me for months, years. That was the only time I was suspicious of him and I had good reason but now he uses that to stop talking to me. I didnt leave because all I ever saw was a few flirty messages and i have no evidence of physical cheating so it didnt seem good enough reason to divorce. dont know how long I can hang onto such a marriage with no communication. I have a weakness. When someone ignores or ghosts me, I really get hurt and pull away. Now all I want is to just change my number and have the silence tangible instead of pretending like we talk. The worst part of it all is through all this loneliness, he never addresses me as anything else but "love" it is so confusing. Makes me feel like am the one with a problem. We tried counselling and he told the counsellor we have no problems in our marriage. Am the one looking for problems.