Abusive ex
I feel as though I need to get this off my chest or I need advice.
When I was in high school I met what I thought was the love of my life. We were together for four years. In the third year of being together, we got pregnant and had our daughter. A week after we had her he became physically abusive, possessive over our daughter as well as consistently gone with his friends around the neighborhood and not at home with the baby and I. Or didn't get a job to help provide.
Throughout the growth of our daughter he became ten times more abusive. Physical, mental, financially, verbally, basically all of the above abusive. (I hid it from my family and then eventually told them. As well as when we fought he would take my phone/laptop so I couldn't call for help.) But I thought I loved him. Although, when we did fight and he put his hands on me, I would tell him I was done(didn't want to be together anymore) and then he would apologize and convince me to stay.
When my daughter was 9 months old he decided he did not want to be with me anymore. At that point I was okay with it. We separated and I ended up getting a restraining order which the judge granted me temporary full custody. The restraining order is now expired as it has been 3-4 years since I had it. In this whole process, I separated us from him and blocked him and anyone who was associated with him.
Now, my daughter and I still have no contact with him. Which sometimes I feel guilty but then I get reminded of how he treated us. (I say us because he would hold my daughter while choking me out.)
I feel like I am rambling but the real reason I need advice is because I want to go and get full custody of my daughter but I am scared that he will get some sort of custody of her or visitation when she doesn't know him, I'm scared of him and he really isn't that great of a guy. Even after the abuse with us he got into a lot of trouble with other things such as abuse to the girl he left me for as well as sexual abuse to a 14 year old.
I don't know. I just need advice. I'm scared of losing my daughter to him. I mean, he hasn't really tried besides trying to add me on Facebook a couple times but other than that he hasn't really tried contacting us or even tried seeing his daughter.
I also want to add that I have a SO and he is great to the both of us. He wants to adopt my daughter as his own.
Basically I am scared of the unknown of this whole situation. Any help would be great.
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