Abortion before marriage.

So when I was younger I had an abortion. The situation was complicated but it was the best decision for me at that time in my life. That was about 5 years ago. 
Now I am happily and in a stable marriage, and TTC. We've been trying for about 6 months but no luck, but I don't believe it's from the surgery, just bad timing. I've never told my spouse, not really trying to hide it but I know it would likely make him uncomfortable.  
​I guess my question is should I tell him? We are Christians (I am now, wasn't when abortion happened) and I know his standpoint  is very strongly against that. 
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Sh

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It's up to you. I am 100% pro choice. There's nothing wrong with the choice you made. If he's a Christian he should understand your choice. Forgiveness is something that comes from your god. Not a man.

Ka

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I know what you're going thru. I am a pastors daughter. I am 26 an had an abortion at 20 and 24. I am ashamed. I got married last Nov. We had a MC in Jan and have been TTC ever since. Even tho my doctor tells me that my body looks healthy I will always blame my MC and firtility problems on my abortions. I'm here if you need to talk. 

Ka

Katy • Sep 29, 2014
Realistically I know that. Growing up the way I did doesn't help. It's hard not to think neg sometimes

Sh

Shawna • Sep 29, 2014
your abortion had nothing to do with your MC. it's not factual

Ka

Katy • Sep 29, 2014
You should absolutely tell him he married you for better or worse. Christians teach forgiveness.

Ka

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You don't have to tell him if you don't want to. Having an abortion does not cause infertility. If it's weighing on your conscious you can though! Most importantly is don't blame yourself for this 6 months isn't that long to be trying :) it'll happen! 

Ha

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Just explain to him the situation and how you feel now about it, he shld understand that back then you were a different person 

S.

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Definitely should tell him. He will probably be taken back by the news, but he is your husband and TTC is part of both of your lives. He should know about it and if he is a true Christian, he will forgive your past mistake. And if you asked, God already has :)