Does your boyfriend ever make you orgasm AFTER he already came? (Please read)

For context, my boyfriend (22m) and I (23f) have been together 7 years and this has been going on for our entire relationship.

I have never orgasmed while having sex with my boyfriend. I’ve only ever orgasmed from masturbating alone (and I can have multiple orgasms when I’m by myself, so I always thought it was just a mental block or feeling shy or something with my boyfriend). I end up having to go home and masturbate which is extremely unsatisfying and makes me feel like he doesn’t see me as a sexual person with sexual needs or something. Penetration does nothing for me orgasm wise, I have to have clitoral stimulation. In the past my boyfriend would rub me for a couple minutes and then we would both just kind of give up because the orgasm wouldn’t happen.

It seems like all our sex is centered around his orgasm only and then once he cums the sex is over. The other day I gave him a blowjob and afterwards when he finished I asked if he would rub me (he never rubs me anymore). He told me he can’t do it now that he’s not in the mood anymore because he already came. A couple minutes later he started crying and he said he didn’t realize that I needed/wanted to have an orgasm and that next time he would make sure to pleasure me too.

My question is… can men give their woman an orgasm once they already came, or is it best to make the woman orgasm first and then the man? Has your partner ever made you cum after they already came?