Before my baby was born, I was constantly chatting with my ex bff. She was curious about our hardships on having a baby. Now that my son has arrived, her social media comments were lukewarm, compared to how she was when we were on the phone. She’s an outspoken person without a filter on her mouth.

My baby was only 2.8kg upon birth and the first paediatrician we saw mentioned that I might not be feeding him enough as his face had no fat- “he’s all eyes!”, she said. So when ex bff asks about baby on the phone, I told her how he’s got big eyes. She disagreed, and I said yes he does, and I repeated what the paediatrician said. She would also always ask where he got his nose from in a demeaning way. I say demeaning coz I know the tone of her voice from the many years I’ve known her.

So on our last conversation by text, she sent me a lengthy response on how she never believed my son has big eyes and to “don’t say that!” I got mad and told her off. I said she has no right to tell me how to describe my own baby and I felt that she’s trying to insult him with her constant comments on what he looks like. I told her all our other friends had nothing but praises for my baby.

Of course she denied everything & turned it around me saying I was being judgemental on her?! Where tf did that come from? She ended the conversation snobbishly saying she refused to get upset again (we had another tiff a few months ago) and sarcastically greeted me for the holidays. She didn’t bother to read my reply coz in her head, she probably wanted to have the last say 🙄😆😒

So out came the holiday social media posts that were aimed at me , and of course I posted one about new beginnings (ie starting new life with a brand new baby without her in it). She retaliated with even more biblical emotional posts 😒 and I just laughed at them inside coz it showed how affected she is and yet tried to be all high and mighty when she texted me last.

Was I being over the top? My view is, she introduces me as her best friend and yet she had the audacity to command me about what to say about my son?? She also talks to me/ about me in a none BFF way, as in like she’s my mother telling me off- and I certainly got sick of it. I felt that she always wanted to have her unsolicited advise/ comments about my plans or goals in life and hubby thinks she’s jealous of me.. I dunno.

We’re still not talking for a month now and I actually don’t feel sad, I felt relieved that I don’t need to share anything of my life to her. Except of course what she sees when I post publicly on social media. I feel that she’s secretly talking about me (good or bad) behind my back and I’d hate that. I wanted people to approach me and asks questions themselves and not from a 3rd party who won’t have the accurate story.

Thanks for reading this far and please share if you have a similar bff story?