Husband wants me to clean all day

I am a stay at home mom to an 18 month old little boy. I like to play with him, watch movies with him, read to him. We don’t do much because it’s cold out, but I like to interact with him all day. And he’s very needy.

My husband works from home, and almost everyday he complains because I don’t cook or clean the house. I am not a maid, or a house keeper, I am a stay at home mom. I am taking care of our son, and he requires a lot of attention.

He complains about crumbs on the floor (only by our sons high chair and he’s learning to feed himself) he complains about dust, laundry, he complains about the dishes, he complains about everything, yet, doesn’t do anything about it. It’s not fair he gets off work, then wants to relax, when I have a never ending job. I told him he can clean when he’s done with work if it’s bothering him so much. Why am I expected to do everything?????

My husband tells me I sit on the couch all day, which is not true. AT ALL. The ONLY time I sit on the couch is when my son sleeps, because that is MY time do relax and do what I want. He gets a break at work, why can’t I get a break from caring for our high energy toddler???????

I can’t clean because our son is needy and I don’t want to ignore him. I can’t do laundry bc the machine is outside of our complex.

Our fight got really bad last week. We decided that we would do a really deep clean of our apartment together, that way it would be easier for us to maintain. We were going to clean the apartment top to bottom. So we dropped the baby off at my moms,and started cleaning, but it was overwhelming. There was just so much to do, and we had so much stuff to get rid of. In the middle of cleaning, my husband got so mad and told me he can’t live like this anymore, and we need to start cleaning regularly. I told him he had to help clean too, or I was going to hire a house cleaner. He told me he thinks we should hire a house cleaner, and I should get a job.

I lost my shit. I love staying home with my son, and I think it’s bullshit he wants me to get a job, just so we can hire a house cleaner. It’s like he’s implying I am supposed to be the house cleaner, and I am being “fired”

Why do stay at home moms have to do EVERYTHING??? Yes, I should clean more BUT SO SHOULD MY HUSBAND!!!!!