Ladies!!!

I need your help. I have been getting Brazilian wax for over a year now because I was tired of shaving. Everything was great for the first few months. I have always struggled with getting ingrown hairs and at first the wax was really helping with that. However, I’ve been struggling so bad with it lately. I am very insecure when my husband and I are intimate. I don’t even like the light being on because of how self conscious it makes me. My husband is very loving, caring and supper motivating. He tells me he does not care, but I do. I have dark spots from previous ingrowns. I make my own exfoliator (brown sugar/tea tree oil) and use Tend Skin ingrown solution to prevent them. I and still breaking out down there and I can’t stop myself from pulling them out which makes my problem worse. What products do you guys recommend for brightening and to prevent ingrowns? I will gladly appreciate the feedback ❤️