Husband keeps smoking

Long). This has been an on going issue for TWO years. At first it was the real stuff(we live in the south it’s illegal) , but now that they sell this legal CBD/THC delta 8 he’s been buying it. I’ve dealt with it far to long. Everytime it’s the same bullshit “I promise I’ll stop I’ll never do it again”

We have two children that are 4 years old & 11 months old. I’m also 4 months pregnant.

He’s a high school teacher & soccer coach. He will obviously lose his job if he’s drug tested.

He will claim to have no money, yet enough to satisfy his wants. I get the kids breakfast, play with them all day, take care of the house, get the kids to bed by myself, I have no “me” time. But he can smoke & “chill” all he wants.

He has always known I am not ok with any form of weed. I was a pot head as a teenager and I have a revelation on why pot is so bad for us mentally, physically & spiritually. My husband knows my past & has always agreed we would both live a sober life.

He’s been lying to me all week saying I’m just being crazy (I asked him twice because I could tell he was acting off & smelt) so I just decided yea maybe I do need to stop quizzing him. But tonight I walk on the back porch because I heard the door open after we were in bed. He’s out there smoking. Then blamed it on me lol.

We’re supposed to be moving to a rental house by the school he’s teaching at. We live 2 hours away now. Where we live now the house is paid for because it’s a family home where we take care of our family farm & just pay Utilities and water. But it’s a a lot of work keep up with this farm. I do it all by myself with the kids & it’s hard, especially now that I’m pregnant.

I really don’t trust that he will keep this teaching job because he could fail a drug test. So that makes me not want to move. We’re secure here. If he loses his job I can afford the bills here since we live mortgage/rent free. I have a small side business on Etsy.

I love him and I’m so hurt he continues to put this useless stuff before his family. I really love him and want to move closer to his job, but I don’t have peace about it.

Advise?

Edit: he smoked a ton before we were in a relationship. We got together in 2018. He was in China for 2 years teaching English & obviously couldn’t smoke there. When he got back he only smoked a handful of times that I know of, but he quit because I told him I couldn’t be with someone that uses any kind of substance due to my past with it. He always acted like he hated it & just did it as a social thing (lie) During the time he stopped we got married, he adopted my daughter who I previously had & we had our baby together. A lot happened within a year! So I know he’s been stressed but so have I! I believe He has an attachment with weed. He misses his life before a family 💔