I've been with my partner since 2018 and he used to wake me up in the middle of the night by kissing, and then we'd have sex. Always faster/harder/rougher than usual. Just more spontaneous in general. I mentioned it one day after and he said he didn't know what I was talking about. Turns out when he has sex dreams he turns to me for sex while still asleep so has no idea. He'd also stop if I ever said I didn't want to and stay asleep.

Now he does the opposite. We'll both be awake in bed ready to sleep, start having sex and if we're spooning for example he'll just stop and be asleep. Then sometimes wake up and wake me to finish, and again sometimes fall asleep again while having sex.

Anyone else's partner do this? 😅

We have sex every 1-3 days including when this happens but the sleep stuff happens like monthly if that. He's recently been put on sleeping tablets to help insomnia but it doesn't seem to effect whether or not he'll fall asleep having sex. Still seems random. So I think he's just generally exhausted from work? And waking me in the night was just wet dreams/sleep walking type thing??? 😅