My bf has a child with another woman and he doesn’t see it.

I’ve been telling him that he should but he doesn’t want the drama with the baby mama and thinks it will ruin things between us. Bcos he doesn’t want me to get jealous of him going to her house etc and spending time around her. The child is still young so it’s not like he could see him without her being there at this stage.

I know this isn’t my fault bcos I haven’t told him he can’t see him. In fact, I’ve done the opposite. But he’s so afraid of losing me because of it. He didn’t want the baby in the first place so I think he’s resentful she even had it.

This whole situation is really draining me i wish I didn’t even know about it I love my bf and I don’t want to lose him over this but I hate feeling like I am the reason why a child is growing up without a father. I have tried endlessly to persuade him I won’t get jealous but he doesn’t believe me and says I’m too emotional to deal with it and he doesn’t want to put me through it bcos I’ll get paranoid. He basically thinks I will cheat on him or leave him for somebody else if he gets involved with his child.