The other day I posted about how my i am out of town and I was texting my husband. I’ve noticed in the past couple months of marriage that he’s not consistent with things he says and it gets annoying. Sometimes they’re white lies and I just don’t like it. Anyway, he said he was with his two friends and sent a picture. There was clearly a girl with them because the picture showed a wallet on the table and 4 drinks. He mentioned twice that it was just him and the two guys friends. Anyway, after two days of reading responses here I decided maybe I should bring it up casually and funny. I replied to the picture saying “ I was looking through our pictures and that’s a cute wallet. Is it a gift for me? 😙” just trying to bring it up in a cool toned way. Anyway, he asked me what I’m talking about and I didn’t respond. He took a screenshot and it showed the picture didnt even load. I felt him being pretty dry and didn’t call me back. I usually tend to hold things for a couple days and then ask about it. He has Said to me that it upsets him when I ask days or months later because I allow the thoughts to consume me which is true. I feel pretty icky about it now. Honestly, I don’t know why I’m like this. I just truly feel I do have some sort of trust issues and he has done some things to make me feel that way. Not accusing him of cheating. I just get annoyed when I see a see a cherry and you tell me no… it’s a blueberry. Advice here?

@casey - of course not. He just holds away information a lot of the time for literally no reason. If my intuition told me he is cheating then I wouldn’t be with him. When he tells a story twice it’s never the same. That’s what annoys me.

@bri you’re right it was immature if me. I tried being funny about it because whenever I’m serious he gets upset and makes it seem like I’m trying to accuse him of lying and gets defensive. If I do it the right way it’s wrong. And if I do it the wrong way it’s wrong. There’s never a time and place to bring my feelings up. He will say, “do you really have to bring this up right now at this very moment?”. He is so tricky to communicate with and I feel like I have gotten emotionally immature because of it. I wasn’t like this before. I’m just so annoyed.