Hi everyone,

My husband has recently found out he enjoys butt stuff, for himself. It took a lot for him to tell me about it because we are from the Southern Bible Belt and thats still seen as taboo for men. And, I think that also affects me too. I like the idea of being dominate, but I always feel awkward when trying it out. We bought strappy lingerie for me to wear during, I feel like wearing different 'clothes' for that may help me turn on another persona, per se.

I guess I'm wondering if anyone else has been through something similar. We have been married for two and a half months, so it's still new in that regard but we have been living together and active for most all of our relationship since 2017.

And maybe a little back story on me too is needed for advice and stuff... I have tried anal myself in pervious relationships and I know how different it feels, so I know I want to give that to him. Previously I've also found I'm into more than 'vanilla' sex too. Handcuffs, eye masks, choking, all amazing in my opinion. But with him we haven't done delved too far into that stuff. I lost my cuffs, we did try the eye mask and choking recently, but no restraints to-date.

So how does one go about switching from a sub mindset to being dominant? Am I on the right track with the lingerie idea? I love him and want to try his stuff, truly, I think it'd be hot, but I always get so flustered when the time comes (the clothes come in in a couple days).