Babysitter

I feel like I'm having this constant struggle with mh baby sitter. Anytime I take a day off or my mom wants my daughter for the day my sitter seems to have an unhealthy attachment to her saying "I'll miss her" or goodbyes just always take so long. I mentioned her going to pre school when she turned 4 and she got all judgmental. " she doesn't need preschool she too smart" she said in a whiney voice " you just want to cut all my time with her"

granted this is a life long friend of mine that is watching her, I just feel like I'm not getting respected as her mother and I just feel like she over bearing.