I’m posting on behalf of my sister who doesn’t have glow. She read this through before I posted it, and wants to add that she wants to make it work with him, and is not looking for comments telling her to leave him.

My sister (22) just got married to her husband (24). They’re trying for a baby so she is a stay-at-home-wife for the time being, because they agreed it didn’t make sense for her to get a job and then quit to have her baby (I disagreed personally with this because she has a good resume, but this is their marriage’s agreement and I respect it after talking to her a bit and getting over my protective older sis crap).

Her husband works in corporate sales. It’s an all man team aside from one woman. He told her time and time again that this woman is the “office slut”. My sister defended her by saying that’s a commonly used term for women who are attractive in the workplace, and told him to stop with that because it is toxic.

The woman (let’s call her Hannah) has been nothing but nice to my sister (let’s call her Annie) at corporate events, and even wrote Annie and her husband a Christmas card wishing them luck on their baby making journey.

One day, Annie came home from running errands early because she forgot her wallet. She found her husband (let’s call him Henry) masturbating on the couch. They have a no porn agreement, but Annie says it was clear that Henry was looking at something on his phone because he hid it as soon as she walked in.

It bothered her for the rest of the day, so she opened Henry’s phone after he went to sleep to look at his search history. There was nothing. Then she looked at Facebook and Instagram. Nothing. Then she looked at his calls and found one with Hannah from the time she had tried to run errands, coming from Hannah and not Henry. But she saw no texts from Hannah in his phone.

Then she looked at his camera roll and saw screenshots of Hannah’s Instagram and Facebook bikini photos, as well as a video of (what she thinks was) Hannah’s butt shaking in yoga pants.

She confronted Henry and he admitted to masturbating to Hannah. He reiterated that she was the “office slut” and had thrown herself at him. Henry told Annie that he couldn’t help it because of how aggressive Hannah was at work, but told Annie to message her to prove that it was just a “pornography thing” and that they didn’t have anything deep going on between them.

My sister messaged Hannah, and Hannah told her that she had called Henry about a work related issue that evening and had never sent him any photos or videos. Hannah told Annie that she had been in an exclusive fwb situation with Henry’s colleague, so if he had any personal videos of her doing naughty things, they probably came from Henry’s colleague.

Henry told Annie that Hannah was telling the truth, but that Hannah was still flirting with him and it’s natural for a man to masturbate after a woman was flirty.

As Annie’s sister, I think Henry is full of shit. Annie says that Henry is willing to seek therapy and religious intervention for porn addiction, though, so she is prepared to forgive him. I respected this decision until…

I was at mine and Annie’s brother’s wedding last weekend and Henry was getting drunk with my husband. My husband told me that Henry was bragging, saying he is having a full on affair with Hannah… and Henry even showed my husband photos of Hannah’s vagina/boobs that Henry said he had received from Hannah. My husband told me I need to talk to my sister and that he would talk to her as well.

My husband and I called Annie. She said she thinks she’s pregnant so she told my husband and I that she simply needs advice now on making her marriage work because she doesn’t want to leave. My husband had some ideas, I had some, but then I offered to post here (on glow) when she didn’t like either of our suggestions. Annie really wants to hear some “objective opinions”.

Annie says she already talked to Henry and he has continued to deny anything my husband claimed he had said at the wedding. He said Annie can’t talk to us because my husband is trying to cause drama. Henry also told Annie, again, that it never went further than him masturbating to Hannah.

How do you ladies think Annie should fix her marriage?