My boyfriend is in a pretty sucky situation and I really want to help him. My boyfriend is in his early 20’s and attends college. He recently transferred to my college (from another out of state college) due to COVID, so because of that, he lives at home with his parents. Because he lives at home, his parents have provided him a car but unfortunately it takes up lots of gas. On top of that, he lives about 40 minutes away from our college so he drives back and forth everyday. He has a job that he works (about ten minutes away from our campus) about three times a week (usually the days he doesn’t have school) and he usually makes about $400 a check. But unfortunately the drive he makes everyday is super expensive so he ends up spending majority of his check every two weeks.

So obviously the best suggestion would be to find somewhere closer to campus to live right? It would seem so but there’s some issues. Most of the apartments near our college are $1,000 a month for rent (and this is per roommate). I have suggested he get a room at a house since it’s much cheaper (around $500-$700 a month) but his mom is highly against it. His mom is huge on conspiracies and is super paranoid about basically everything so she won’t let him move out because she’s nervous about the housing market, she’s scared about him living with random roommates, and she thinks its smarter if he lived home for the next two years of college. She has now added that he can’t move anywhere unless his sister can move in with him. There are two person apartments near campus but they’re extremely run down and unsafe.

My boyfriend wants his own space and is getting annoyed with his mother not letting him be an adult (she wants him home by certain times, he can’t eat certain things, he can’t do certain things, etc) and is super controlling. I really wanna help my boyfriend with some ideas to change his situation. I saw him cry for the first time today and it’s evident that he’s extremely frustrated and tired.

Also want to add that my boyfriend is a full time student!! BTW he does want to make his own decisions but he isn’t allowed to without his mom intervening. If he leaves he has no a car meaning no school and no work. As I said he lives 40 minutes away from campus so a car is essential. And as I mentioned, he just transferred to this school so he’s still adjusting.

@Yeliza: He is a military kid so his tuition is paid for