I’m going to try to make a really long story short. LOL. My husband and I have three kids, none together. I have two (15,11) and he has one (15). We decided years (3.5 to be exact) ago that I would come off my birth control and if we got pregnant awesome, if not, that’s life.

My husband works in the medical field and knows how women’s bodies work. We have nothing but unprotected sex but when it comes to having sex around my fertile period he will have excuses for not having sex, or play with me and never actually have sex. When we do have sex he won’t finish. I have asked multiple times if there’s a reason behind it, if he’s scared to get pregnant, scared to start over (since our kids are older). He never says there’s a problem. My body is a CLOCK; I can tell exactly what day to have sex to get me pregnant. It’s been YEARS. I don’t know how else to approach the situation. Any advice or ideas on how to get him to turn his brain off or to just be honest with me? I feel like it’s hurting me in the end giving me false hope if that’s not what he really wants and doesn’t plan on saying something.

[[Side note: I have extremely heavy periods and cramping that makes me sick. I’m allergic to tampons and pads so being on birth control is kind of a must if we’re not going to get pregnant. This he also knows very well as he often has to help me with random things during my cycle.]]