My husband is currently out of state for work. He’s a lineman and was sent to the northeast in anticipation of the storms going through today. It’s not unusual for him to go for storms and be gone for a couple weeks at a time. I’m a SAHM to our two boys.

Anyway, this evening my husband sent me a text asking me “what was the A&E van in the driveway?” I was confused because…we don’t have security cameras. So I assumed maybe our friend/neighbor across the road said something. So I just asked what he was talking about and he just said one pulled in the driveway so I asked when, he said 4:02. Giving me the exact time, I knew it wasn’t from our neighbor because what neighbor knows down to the minute what time a van pulled in? But at any rate - I wasn’t home at that time…I had gone to pick up our oldest from school and both boys and I had to run an errand in town so we had just gotten back home around the time my husband texted (5:30ish). So that’s what I told him. Then I light heartedly said “what, spying on me?” He said “no I put one of the cell cameras out to watch the house.” We live way out in the country and my husband is a big hunter, so during various hunting seasons he uses cell connected trail cameras that send the pictures directly to his phone.

Well, that all makes sense and I really don’t care but the thing that doesn’t sit right with me is that he didn’t even say anything to me. I have nothing to hide so I have zero problem with him having a camera set up, but why not tell me? There was no “hey dear, I set up one of the cell cameras since you’re going to be home alone with the kids” or “set one up so if something were to happen I could catch it on camera for the police”. I’ve actually suggested we get a home security system…even though we’re far out of town, bad things happen and since we are far removed, no one would know for awhile. But it’s the fact that he did it almost secretly. Although I don’t believe it had to do with not trusting me for some reason (I’ve never given him any reason not to trust me, ever).

So tell me…would this bother you?