Do you and your partner/spouse have similar cleanliness standards or is one cleaner than the other?

My husband and I vastly differ with cleanliness. I grew up in a very neat, tidy, organized house. Everything was always clean, nothing was ever left forgotten. Kitchen and bathrooms were cleaned daily. I’ve become the same way as an adult.

My husband grew up with young, partying parents who didn’t care much about things like that. He said things were pretty chaotic in the house, stuff was just always everywhere and they cleaned maybe once a month. He is by nature not a very clean person either. He’s content to leave it if the kids throw food on the floor. He’s not concerned with a skid mark in the toilet bowl. He doesn’t really consider that being “dirty”, just a “lived in house”. A lot of our arguments are because I am often cleaning throughout the house and he feels guilty so he will say something along the lines that I’m too anal or scared of germs.

If you have different standards of a clean house with your partner, how do you handle it?