Whenever I have a bad day or am upset, my husband makes it about him and gets mad at me for having feelings

I’m looking for some advice here.

My husband is generally pleasant, but he cannot stand it and doesn’t know how to handle it if I am anything less than happy and content. Whenever I am upset about something, or not feeling great, he seems to take it as a personal offense and turns it around on himself and says stuff like “sorry I make your life so miserable” and will pout all day. It won’t even have anything to do with him and he will still behave this way. Yesterday I was having a horrible day, after having an argument with my mom, and struggling with our child (autism), he came home from work and I was near tears at the kitchen table. He didn’t comfort me, or say anything. Later on, I went to cut the kids a piece of cake for some dessert after dinner. He said “why are you doing that right now? Wait until you’ve put the rest of the food away.” I snapped and said “fine” and walked away. Then he had the audacity to pout and ignore me all night, not say a word to me, and left this morning without saying a word to me either. Like I do not know what to do. He cannot handle any emotion other than contentness. He’s like this way with our kids too. If one of them is upset, his FIRST instinct is to say “calm down” or “be quiet/hush”. He seems incapable of any capacity of sympathy or comfort. He never hugs them or consoles them when they’re sad, he just tells them to hush. It makes me feel like he’s secretly devoid of emotion or feelings and just pretends to have them. It’s just so weird and I’ve never experienced a human being like this. He has always been like this BUT it has progressively gotten worse. We’ve been married 4 years and have 2 kids together.