Advice please?

I (F) have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. I understand that after this long, couples become super comfortable around each other, and this is something I’ve told him I love about our relationship. I love that nothing is awkward or weird anymore and we are 100% ourselves around each other. Lately though, for the past year or two, I feel like he’s too comfortable. I enjoy having silly/goofy moments with him but I feel like it’s too often now. At times i feel like he’s more of a little brother than a romantic partner. I’ve told him this before. If I tell him he should brush his teeth, he breathes in my face and intentionally makes me smell his breath. Same goes for his armpits. He wants sex ALL the time. But sex isn’t romantic anymore. He doesn’t try to turn me on or be sensual or romantic. He just tries to be “fun” and “silly” by grabbing and throwing me around and picking me up or just going right at it instead of making me want him. I find this childish and immature and not sexy or cute or whatever. I want to be treated like an adult woman. And he wants sex multiple times per day. I’m not always in that mood like he is and it turns into a coercive thing where he tries and tries and I just give in because “no, not right now” doesn’t get him to stop. Or if it does, he then pouts and gets upset and irritable because he needs it. We’ve had conversations about this many times and it’s gotten somewhat better, but I still don’t feel respected. There are also times (usually after drinking) where I want to be the one to initiate things sexually and I try to put on vibey lights and vibey sexy music and he just whines that he doesn’t want to listen to that or he wants to play COD instead (not knowing my intentions were sexual, because I don’t want to just come out and say “let’s prepare to have sexy time”, I want to be natural about it.) I would probably be in the mood more often if he had fresh breath and made me want him by starting slow and setting a mood rather than just jumping on me. I really don’t even like kissing him, and it’s not just about his breath. It’s so wet and sloppy and loose. It’s like drooling and sucking all over the bottom half of my face. Making out with him is not enjoyable. And he has noticed I don’t do it with him often and asks why but I don’t know how to tell him, I don’t want to be mean or hurt his feelings. I honestly just liked it better when we first met and he put in effort to impress me and be attractive. I know he loves me, I never question that. But I’ve explained to him that I want him to show it. He doesn’t like to take pictures with me (he doesn’t use social media, but I don’t want the pictures for social media, I want them for myself because I have MAYBE 5 good pictures of us out of the years that we’ve been together). I’m very spontaneous and he isn’t. I try not to compare myself or my relationship to others, but I often see a man doing things for his gf or wife or whatever just because he wants to do something nice and treat his woman right. But when I tell my bf I wish he would go out of his way to do a nice simple act of kindness for me, he says those guys are simps. But they’re not??? They just treat their woman like they should? I dated a guy years before my current bf and HE was a simp. That was a big reason why I left. It was overwhelming. This morning, he woke me up with a kiss and told me he bought me a coffee. I was absolutely shocked because this is the only time he’s ever done anything like this. Anyway, I just want a MAN that acts like a husband. I get we aren’t married, but we’ve been together long enough and we aren’t teenagers.

Please help. How can I bring these things up to him without hurting him?? Are we just too different? I love him to death, this is the closest/longest/most intimate relationship either of us have ever had. I don’t want to start resenting him for the things I’ve mentioned here (and other things I’ve left out of this post)

What do I do???