Sick of it all

So I have a 13 month old. And I'm so sick of everyone telling me what I should or shouldn't do. Or I'm doing this wrong or that wrong.

My husbands family tells me I'm "too protective" and that I need to lighten up with my kid. But then my family is the opposite. I had a family member get mad at me because I gave my 13 month old a fry. Because I should've "cut it into tiny tiny pieces." Mind you, my child is watched very closely when he has food.

I feel like no matter what I do, it's wrong. I can't please everyone....