Rude Family

Is anyone else struggling with close family only checking in to see if you have had the baby yet or only seems focused on the baby and doesn't ask anything about how you and your spouse is doing?? My mother and grandmother only contact me to get updates on the baby and in my birthday card from my grandmother she wrote "not too much longer you'll be having that baby"....no happy birthday or anything. Am I in the wrong for being somewhat upset?? This is the 3rd baby for us and last.