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Honestly, I am good with 2. I have a boy and a girl.
Anyone else keen for a 3rd baby?
I'm hoping someone could give me some advice or guidance. I have two boys age 3 and 5 who are my entire world. Me and my husband always said we wanted two children but ever since I had my second I've always felt like I want another. I feel incomplete and hate the fact I feel this way. But my husband does not want another at all. He's 100% certain. He didn't like the baby phase and hes happy with two. He says we can't afford it, that the house isn't big enough, that mentally and emotionally we couldn't cope and that we have no help. All of these points are annoyingly accurate and we have zero help from family. But yet I still feel this way. Has anyone else been in this position? Im 35 soon so I feel like time is running out. My husband works full time and I'm a stay at home mum. Thanks :)
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We have a 3 and 1 year old, a few months ago hubby was dead set on being done. He even got a vasectomy consultation. Then he hoped on the fence and we said we’d make a decision later this year. Well looks like God decided for us, we just found out a few days ago we’re expecting #3. Hubby was elated even though he thought he was done just a few weeks ago. Go figure!
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And thanks so much for the well wishes!! It’s quite a surprise but I’ll take it lol
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I hope he comes around!! He may surprise you!
Em
Ahh congratulations on your 3rd pregnancy! That's amazing that your husband is so excited. I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy. I hope my husband changes his mind! I can not see it happening at all though :(
I haven't myself, but many have this issues of not agreeing on the number of kids.If your husband is done, then that's just how it is.Then you have to decide if you wanna break up the family to have more or if you can live with it being just the four of you.Couples counseling can be helpful so you both get things of your chest in a proper way.
Em
Thank you for your advice and taking the time to reply. My husband is an amazing dad and husband and we have a fantastic relationship so there is no way I would break up my family over my longings for another baby. I know I just have to accept it which is a hard thing to do but I don't really have a choice
Im in a similar situation. Two girls aged 2.5 and 8 months. My husband always says hes more than content with the two that we have and that he wants to enjoy them (which i 100% get).
Em
I'm sorry to hear that you're in a similar situation but it's also good to know that I'm not alone. My husband also says how content he is with the two we already have and that he feels things are easier now that ours are a little older and that he just couldn't do the whole baby thing again. I have to respect his wishes but it's so horrible feeling like this. People say you know when you're done and I personally feel like I know I'm not done. My friend told me to just get pregnant anyway but there's no way I could be so deceitful towards my husband. I guess I just have to get over it!
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