Sex and Christianity?

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I'm 17 and I've been with my boyfriend for a year and 3 months. We are a well suited couple and have never had a proper argument or anything. Anyway, we've done pretty much everything except sex. I don't know what to do because I really want to have it, but I'm stuck. My mum is a serious Christian and thinks I'm innocent obviously wants me to wait till marriage to lose my virginity. However, I'm not so strict on this rule (I'm Christian too). Also I can't talk to her about contraception because of the situation. I want an implant. I have three older, adult  brothers and I spoke to two of them who are atheists and they said I should have it if I'm safe and both my boyfriend and I are doing it for the same reason. I thought they'd be very overprotective but they were so supportive instead (to my relief). 
I want to wait till I'm 18 anyway but what then?! (My boyfriend is respectful and doesn't mind waiting - is just the whole mum situation) I fear what she'll say and if she could stop me seeing my boyfriend. 
Help please :S

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She won't be able to stop you once you're 18, you're an adult. :)

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I was born and raised a Catholic and taught that there should be no sex before marriage. In one way this was a good thing because it made me value my virgin status more than most , so that I did not loose my virginity until I was 21. However I did not wait until marriage because of pressure from 'friends'. If you really love your boyfriend and want to have sex then you should definitely use some sort of contraception. I was on the pill, because I thought it was better to be on contraception than have a baby outside marriage. I knew the church wouldn't agree with this but you have to do what is right for you. In my eyes not following all the teachings exactly does not make you a bad Christian, more like an informed one.

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Let's forget for a moment about the "rule" not to have sex before marriage. Let's talk about honor. The bible says that if you don't correct your child you don't love them. It also says honor your mother and father and live a long life. Your mother is not trying to keep you from enjoying something because she wants to hurt you. It love. Real love. If you can't honor her in this it's going to be really hard to be a wife that honors her husband.

This is a subject that is so close to my heart because I ran back to God so many times after saying that I would love him always and then having sex.

One day I had to look my husband in the eyes and apologize for giving to others what was only meant for him.

I'd really like to talk to you more. Maybe even with your mom. It's definitely not something you should be keeping from her.

If you want real Christian answers email me. Thefaithfuldoula@gmail.com we can talk about contraception too.

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Yea lots of things are sins and people do them.. I suggest to ignore any religions that limit your sexuality. I struggled with this when I first started having sex as I was raised in a Christian household and could not talk to my mom ( I'm 18 now and still can't). My suggestion would to always have safe and do what you are comfortable with.

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This is what I think... The New Testament doesn't give rules, it gives guidelines that will help you lead a better life, I think that the thing about sex is that you can get ill or you can end up with a broken heart and other issues, that is why God wants to protect us, I think that if you are safe, trust your partner and aware of the consequences it's ok.
But also I had sex with my first bf at 17, at the time I was so in love but now I see it in a different way, it was never gonna last and maybe I should have waited for a more mature relashionship 
Good luck!

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I am a Christian as well! I do not believe in no sex until marriage, but I do believe in waiting until you're both adults who can be responsible and my personal want was that we both are in love and can very much see a future together (a marriage). My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years but just had sex a month ago (we're both 18) because I really wanted to make sure I felt completely secure in our future together and I do! My mom does not know, she also wants me to wait because she waited, but because I waited until being an adult and because I did it at my place at university, not under her roof, I don't believe it was her business. I am on birth control and feel great about my decision to have sex so as long as you are safe and responsible and feel comfortable, it is your business and your choice.

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I'm a Christian, and I have have sex with my boyfriend. The way I look at it is, if you know you're going to marry this person, it's okay. Like I know I am going to marry my boyfriend. He is the only person I am going to have sex with and honestly I don't regret having sex with him. My parents don't know but honestly, it's none of their business. Hope I helped beautiful xoxo

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I know exactly how you are feeling. I'm a Christian I even went to a private Christian school but I don't think sex before marriage is wrong if you love the person. me and my husband has sex before we were married and God doesn't love us any less. If you love him do what you feel is right. :)

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If you are a Christian hon I think you should wait until marriage. Seek wisdom and direction from God. Have you been taught that in the bible it says that having sex outside of marriage is a sin?

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