I’m currently 32 weeks pregnant with my second baby. I’ve had 4 miscarriages so my husband and I are very excited about our new arrival and so is my oldest child.

Backstory, my cousin and I have been very close since we were kids, we grew up like sisters. Lived together in college etc. She’s 5 years older than me. I got married my last year of college and obviously moved in with my husband. She didn’t take any of it well, didn’t come to my wedding and claims to “not like” my husband even though he’s always been really nice to her and has treated me wonderfully.

When I told her I was pregnant with my first child she cried and told me it was a huge mistake. I was hurt but gave her the benefit of the doubt and brushed it off. She barely talked to me my whole pregnancy, didn’t come to my baby shower but then when I went into labor she insisted she be allowed into the room even though she ghosted me for months. I refused obviously because she is also so rude to my husband so she waited in the lobby for 12 hours. sent me text messages about how awful I was for doing this to her while I was 8cm dilated and unmedicated until she was told to leave by the L&D nurses for stressing me out.

She THEN showed up at the hospital the next day and made it super awkward in the room where me and my husband were. She then pretended to be the bigger person by actually acknowledging my husband and congratulating him on the birth of his son then acted like the martyr telling me later how hard that was for her to do and how appreciative I should be 🙄

We didn’t talk for a year after that. Fast forward to now, she apologized (it seemed sincere) and we’re on good terms. She still dislikes my husband for no reason but keeps it to herself. She still refuses to come to my house incase he shows up 🙄 so I have to go to her if we hang out which isn’t often now because we no longer mesh. She’s single, doesn’t have kids but has MAJOR opinions about everyone else’s life choices.

When I told her I was pregnant this time she cried again of course (🙄), even though I was so happy and she knew about my miscarriage history. She basically pulled away from me as soon as I told her which is fine and I understand but I also stopped trying with her completely because if she can’t try with me during a very vulnerable and exciting time in my life I have no room in my life for our “sister” relationship.

She called me the yesterday out of the blue to tell me how upset she is because her younger brother got engaged. He’s my age and we’re very close. He’s always been supportive of me and my family. I already knew about his engagement of course and am so happy for him, he’s so in love with his new fiancé and sheis great, we get along so well.

My “sister” cousin was crying on the phone telling me about it, saying his fiancé is trashy, a slut, not wholesome and he’s making a huge mistake and she’s going to dinner with him tonight to try and talk him out of getting married and to break off his engagement. He of course won’t do this and is done with her shit too. My opinion is that she just doesn’t want anyone getting married etc because she’s still single and childless. She told me that she won’t go his wedding and that when she has kids he’ll never be allowed to watch them. I said that was her choice. She then said she would only trust one friend to watch her kids (also single) and wouldn’t trust me to watch her kids either unless I got divorced from my husband. I sat there and said nothing because I was so offended and in pure shock. She then had the AUDACITY to say that I can always trust her with my kids and she can’t wait to watch them whenever I need. I got off the phone and haven’t responded to any of her many text messages. It feels like she goes out of her way to make me feel bad just to make my pregnancy experience bad. Do I say anything or just cut her off without explanation? Would you forgive her? Am I over reacting? Options appreciated.