Husband decided to start traveling for work

My husband and I live with his father, his friend, her 4 adult children, and 1 grandson. It’s a packed house and we’ve been trying to move for months but my husband always makes excuses as to why he can’t take a job doing what he does for more money/in a cheaper area. It’s gotten to the point where I’m now pregnant (not planned obviously) and one of our roommates has damn near knocked me down 2 times because I “wouldn’t move out of her way”.

I put my foot down and said that I cannot live somewhere where a 32 year old woman is putting hands on me for no reason. He then told me he “forgot to tell me” that he’s going to have to fly to New York for 6 days, April 1-6, to fix a computer for an airline company. I specifically asked him to please give me a fair warning if he’s going to have to travel because I would need to fly up to my dads because I don’t feel safe being with his family alone. But of course he “forgot” to tell me.

He then dropped ANOTHER bomb on me that he’s going to get to travel every 3 weeks. He’s telling me this excitedly…like Im not pregnant and in an unstable living situation with HIS FAMILY. I asked him if he plans on letting them know that his wife is pregnant and he said “they already know but I told them it’s ok as long as I don’t miss the baby being born”. I knew my husband was kinda clueless on certain things but this is so much stress on me and I told him that if he’s going to be traveling so often I can’t keep flying back and forth constantly especially as my pregnancy progresses. I don’t know what to do because before I ever got pregnant he told me that he wouldn’t be traveling in this position and that if he was it would be rare. I feel completely blindsided especially because we’ve been looking at homes in Sacramento and he had me under the impression that we were going to move in the next 3 months. I’ve been looking for jobs and I thought he’d been doing the same not getting more involved in his current position that’s going to leave me to be the sole caretaker of our baby.