How do I communicate without hurting his feelings?

My boyfriend and I were both virgins, it’s been a couple years and we have sex pretty often. I have never been able to orgasm and it’s hard to enjoy sex sometimes. I don’t know how to tell him things with hurting his feelings. I’m afraid I’ll annoy him. I wanna do more things. Like more foreplay, toys, or more talking. He refuses to moan or talk at all. I understood at that at the beginning of the relationship sex was new, but he complains about me never being able to orgasm. Yet it doesn’t feel like he’s really trying to help me with that. He’s also expressed he’s uncomfortable with toys or me using them because it makes him insecure. I really just wanna be able to experience an orgasm and be able to pleasure myself, but I don’t wanna hurt his feelings…what do I do?