How do you not get bitter?

Question

My husband and I currently trying to conceive. 
It’s been almost a year since I got off birth control, and about 5 months of REALLY trying (OPKs, bbt tracking, SMEP) I haven’t gotten a positive LH test yet, so I may not even be ovulating and now my periods are irregular. 🙃
I have been looked at physically and hormonally and everything was fine. (No my husband hasn’t been tested yet) 
My mom got pregnant at 16 with my sister and then had no trouble conceiving me. My dad’s side of the family is known for their fertility, my dad having gotten two women pregnant before my mom lol. 
So anyways, naïvely I thought that when we decided we were ready I would have no trouble getting pregnant and now here we are. 
During this time I have learned ALOT. Stuff I didn’t even know about the female body before 😂
But, I say all that to ask…HOW DO YOU KEEP FROM BEING BITTER? 
I have family members younger than me (I’m 24) on their second child and it upsets me. Like it’s so easy for them. I want to be happy for anyone who has a child, but I’m feeling so sad and jealous! 
I want a baby of my own. I want a little family with my husband. I just know he would be the greatest father. 
I’m just sad…lol

Answer

It took my husband and I 7 years.  We married at 22 and I had my first baby at 29, literally a month before my 30th.  I get being bitter, I really do however looking back I’m so glad it took that long.  We did so much; traveled the world; bought a house, got a few degrees, bought a few cars, learned everything and anything there was to know about each other and most importantly we became financially stable.  We are able to take a random Disney trip and not care about how much it costs (we did this in November, woke up had a 5 min convo and left). We can give our daughter the life we always wanted. 
Be patient and have hope, it’ll happen on its own time.

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I would have you hubby tested just to be sure! It takes two to make a baby. 
I try not to be sad or bitter when someone announces their pregnancy, but it's tough. I have to remind myself that they are completely different people with different body chemistry than me and my husband. When it's our time we will be over the moon excited. I'm super excited to see my hubby has a dad as well 🥰

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It took my husband and I a year and a half, and I definitely felt bitter towards pregnant coworkers, my sister for getting accidentally pregnant twice, and any friend who I knew got pregnant on “their first try.” It helps to know others who had a lengthier process, both those who needed fertility treatment and those who did not. We started fertility testing, thinking we were going to need IUI (and hoping that worked, because we’re financially stable but IVF is EXPENSIVE) and then got pregnant on our own right in the middle of said testing. I’m now typing this at 23 weeks with a squirmy boy growing in my body.
I won’t tell you to “just relax,” because that advice made my blood boil. I will tell you instead to try and enjoy having good sex, do things that make you happy, cry when you need to, and if you hit the one year mark, then you go see a doctor and get some testing done. Hoping for the best for you!

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It took me 4 years total, about 1 year of fully TTC using the Fertility Awareness Method. 
I have PCOS and ovulate irregularly. I never got a positive opk, so I stopped wasting my money and time with those and focused on my cervical fluid and cervix position for identifying fertile days and BBT for confirming ovulation after the fact. I used the Ava Bracelet as well and tracked my breathing rate and resting heart rate, which was cool to see.
This was my fertility chart for the cycle I got pregnant. I ended up ovulating earlier than normal and got my BFP at 12dpo.

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