I recently just found out my best friend is pregnant even though she wasn’t trying and up until marrying her husband, she never even wanted her own kids. I feel horrible because 1. She didn’t even want to tell me because she knows I’ve been TTC for years (and she didn’t want to hurt my feelings) and 2. I am having a hard time feeling happy for her (and that’s the exact reason she didn’t want to tell me.) I know it isn’t fair to her for me to be distant so I’ve been trying to be really actively engaged, but I still can’t shake how unfair it feels. Have you ever had to deal with this? If so, how did you separate your personal feelings of sadness from feeling joy for your friend. Because I am happy for her because this is something she wanted too.