Toxic/Controlling Bf, what to do?

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I went to get food at Chic-Fil-A after grocery shopping and was on the phone with my boyfriend, the guy taking my order was being very friendly (making jokes and whatnot, im assuming because he was new/nervous and was trying to figure out how to modify my order) after I was done ordering my boyfriend was like “why were you flirting with that guy?”  “He was flirting with you”  “That guy liked you”  “I’m mad at you now”  “I’m jealous right now”  “Does he always flirt with you when you go there” I was honestly upset like that is NOT in my control…of COURSE I’m going to be nice to someone who’s taking my order…tf? It’s not like he asked for my number, we complimented eachother, etc… All I did was place my order and “laughed” at his ‘joke’ when he said “you must never come here, paying with cash, no salt fries, etc” like wtf, of course I’m not going to make things awkward or be rude. He even went as far as saying “i don’t want you going there anymore” “you’re ban from chic fil a “ HAAAA, as if I would EVER let someone control me like that. Of course I defended myself and made it known he was being IRRATIONAL AF like um bye ✌🏻. We did move past that though.
But last night I went to the movies with my little brother about an hour after I got home from hanging out with my boyfriend. It wasn’t set in stone or an official plan, my brother just randomly decided he wanted to go so I said okay. Here’s the text messages between us (i might be in the wrong/ probably could’ve communicated better, I understand BUT the way he was acting towards me is NOT okay… especially when I recently broke up with him because he refused to let me see his phone and started acting differently…)

His last text was “I’m sorry, enjoy the movie” THEN he called me at 2am on some bullshit  “how do i know you weren’t with another guy”   “You went late at night”  “who knows when you got out” It literally PISSED me off because I THOUGHT we resolved this and moved on… like grow the fuck up and LEAVE if you don’t trust me. Won’t be in another toxic controlling relationship,

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You should be leaving this relationship. This is gross, immature and unhealthy behavior. Stop putting up with it.

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“I have a jealous trait” lmao what he means to say is he has deep rooted insecurity and control issues and shouldn’t be in a relationship until he works on himself or goes to therapy.

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This can only end in disaster, I would call it a day and let him figure himself out. 
He needs to work on that “jealous trait” on his own!! ￼
So many women get abused/killed because of their jealous 
spouse/partner this may seem a bit far fetched but don’t be a statistic. 
Controlling & manipulative behaviour is not ok.

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Ummmm yeah definitely don’t continue to take this BS. He’s very controlling and it will continue to get worse. Save yourself lol

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Wow he literally needs to know what you are doing 24/7 in order to not think you’re with another guy? Lol I bet even if you gave him a planned itinerary of your whole day every day he would still find a “reason” and plenty of excuses to act jealous and controlling. His distrust of others is not a cause for distrust with you. If you have given him no reason to distrust you he’s being crazy and controlling and trying to excuse his behavior acting like you need to tip toe around to avoid making him feel insecure, which he would anyway because his insecurities are HIS problem that he needs to work through. He honestly needs therapy because you are not responsible for coddling his insecurities.

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Until he works on his jealousy this relationship will continue to be toxic. And unfortunately there is nothing you can do to make him get over it because it's an issue within himself. I'm not one to tell people to leave their significant others but I've been in relationships like this and they don't get better. They will continue to overthink, accuse, and try and control everything they can. Women have literally been killed because of jealous spouses. And I'm not saying it will be you but it could and that should be enough for you to want to end this relationship. He's toxic and I wouldn't put up with this behavior. If he wants to make it work he will work on himself and go to therapy. Expecting you to try and fix him while always moving the goalposts isn't it

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He has all these jealousy traits and wouldn’t let you see his phone either so much so that you broke up over it but he’s freaking out over stupid things like this and trying to control you? He is cheating. For sure is. And this is deff already toxic. Dump his ass.

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Run, he’s ridiculous and playing the victim, the reason he’s jealous because of the shit he’s doing and thinking you’re doing the same, he do t Trust himself that’s why

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Please leave. This is what my ex fid before he started hitting me.

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Jealous trait?! He sounds like an idiot.

Toxic/Controlling Bf, what to do?

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