How long are you waiting for the next baby?

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Hello ladies!
I was due April 10 but due to having high blood pressure with contractions and being dilated to a 4 I went into L+D and they  diagnosed me preeclampsia and was induced and had our second baby girl March 4 at 34 weeks 5 days!
We have a 3 year old daughter and my question is: how long are you waiting to start trying for your next baby?
We both agree that the age gap was great for introducing a new sibling to our only child but don’t want to wait 3 years for the next baby and didn’t know when people were thinking of actively trying and what age gaps people have between their children that think it’s been better than waiting longer.
My MIL said she would like our newborn about 18 months apart from the next baby so that would mean in about 7-8 months trying again since pregnancy is 9 months alone — and while I’m all for having a third (probably our last) it’s a little overwhelming thinking in 7-8 months getting pregnant again and having to do the whole pregnancy thing all over again 😂
Pic of our newborn and 3 year old big sister just for fun 🥰

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I’m currently 21wk with my first and Husband and I have already stated talking about when we want to try for the next one 😅. Our plan is to wait until he’s a year (or about a year) to start trying again and then go from there. My husband is the middle of three boys - his older brother is 4 1/2 years older than him and his younger is 2. They’re all super close (even the oldest and youngest with almost 7 years between them), and I fully believe it’s all about how you raise them rather than ages. My dad and his sister were N O T close whatsoever (with 8 years between the two). She was insanely jealous of him and my grandparents didn’t help that much. It wouldn’t have mattered if they were 2yrs apart, fbeh wouldn’t have ever been close.

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I have 4 under 4. One is 4,3,1 and just had my last 2 days ago. I say go for it. All natural(vaginal) at 39weeks. My body adjusted well with each pregnancy

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I wanted My first two 18 months apart. I didn’t even get my first period until 9 months pp and then my cycle was 25-45 days. I breastfed for 13 months. I didn’t get pregnant until #1 was 16 months old. So sometimes you can plan and plan and plan and it won’t happen anyways. 
We tried for our third for about 2 years on and off. Finally got pregnant when we “gave up”. Our older boys will be 7 and 5 yrs old when our third is born and I love it! They’re so sweet and helpful compared to crazy toddlers.

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My girls will be 6 and 4 in July. Their birthdays aren’t even a week apart. My oldest did amazing at only being 2 when her sister came. I personally enjoy the 2 year age gap. With this one there will be an almost 4 year age gap (we lost a baby in 2020). I think she will also be a great big sister because she loves caring for her dolls. I would love a bigger family but this will be our last due to previous losses and complication. Plus I don’t do well with pregnancy and I’m just ready to enjoy raising the beautiful kids I have already and being the best person I can be for them. So I’m definitely done being pregnant. Honestly do what ever you guys feel comfortable with. If that means getting pregnant in 8 months or 2 years. Trust your body.

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Omg they are so darn cute!! 💕 
We are thinking we’ll be done for now & content with 2 children. In the future, maybe 5+ years down the line we would do 2 more but we’ll see what happens. ☺️

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I’m on our fourth baby. They’re all right at 23-25 months apart. My body tends to not get fertile again for about a year once breastfeeding finishes up. Then two periods, and I’m pregnant. Haha! We’ve loved the age gap

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Everyone is different when it comes to age gaps. My mom and her sister are 18 months, and my aunt did the same with her 2 kids. My mom had all of us roughly 4 years (96, 00, 04). I personally like the idea of a 3-4 (more on the 4 side) gap so the kid is older and able to be somewhat helpful and not be as “demanding”’as a 2 year old per say (although of course every kid is different!)
Ultimately, whatever you feel will be best for your situation and what you can handle! That’s the key

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My first and second are about 27 months apart. My second is only a week old, but I can already tell this was a great age gap for us. I (personally) would be much more stressed out if my first was more than a few months younger than he is. We’re planning on at least a third (probably the last) and would like to space similarly, but we’re also getting older and are trying to balance that piece.

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My first and second are 18 months apart and my third and fourth will be 20 months apart.

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My 1st child is 5yrs older than my 2nd. My 2nd and 3rd are 10mo apart. The 3rd and 4th are 4yrs apart. My 4th and current will be just shy of 2yrs apart(being induced for GH next Tuesday). I would say it's all up to you and your husband. I would let your body heal as long as you feel it needs to since you had preeclampsia. They say 18mo or longer, but each pregnancy is different. My 2nd pregnancy I had bouts of high blood pressure, and towards the end they induced me because she stopped growing. Got pregnant about a month later, and that pregnancy was completely healthy. You just never know.

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