My boyfriend invited his 2 cousins to come visit us, about 2 days ago. His cousins brought their brother along. The brother brought his child who is a baby. My boyfriend & I have been together for 3 years. He knows that I am, & have always been very picky about who's allowed to come into our space, & who isn't.

One of our mutual friends came over yesterday as well to work on some things for my boyfriend. He usually comes over, so he isn't an issue. My annoyance from comes from my boyfriend telling me that they are spending the night here. We live in a new house & do not have anything in the guest rooms but unpacked boxes and a bunch of junk that needs to be sorted & put away.

I did not know anything about this until hours later. At the time that that was discussed, I was taking my finals. They've all been under the influence before it was decided that they will be spending the night. I've isolated myself because I'm still experiencing sensory overload (loud music, loud conversations, laughing really loudly) with everything happening here. I feel like my brain is losing it. I needed a little peace and quiet & couldn't get it. I shouldn't have to leave my space for peace.

My boyfriend came to check on me for the first time in hours since everyone was so "concerned" about me last night. He thinks that my problem is with them being here. It's not. I've explained to him that my problem was that I wasn't included in the conversation of people spending the night here, & that after our friend got groceries and his cousins got groceries, I was expected to put them all up and clean up after everyone's dishes since my boyfriend cooked as well.

I wasn't even in the kitchen. I've been in my room taking tests.

I also explained to him that I didn't appreciate being blown off in front of everyone when I tried two times to have a quick, private conversation with him about what exactly was going on from the messy kitchen to him trying not to have a conversation with me. He is putting words in my mouth that I didn't say to him or our company. I am left here with no resolution as he is currently sleeping, and while his company is sleeping on the couches. I don't know what else to do because this happens frequently.

Especially when him and his friends are slightly under the influence. He'll make decisions with his friends and family when I'm not around (in reference to coming over) & just expects me to take it and deal with it. Stuff like this is why I also say I feel as though, even though I live here and contribute to bills, no matter what I address that is bothering me in reference to having people over, it's always me "overreacting" or blatantly blaming him for SOMETHING (in his opinion). I'm so exhausted.