My husband and i met as friends and after a year we got together, before we evene got to know each other i got pregnant and had a baby a year ago. Man we have had so many problems since then. From fights, sleepless nights, blames, miscommunication, money issues, mother in law hates me and when she comes to the house she fights with me evry single time. Last drama was created by his mother a week ago that concluded into him telling her that she is not welcome any more into our family house. After she left we talked, he said he is really sorry for what i have been through and that i am not obligadeted to talk to her ever again nor will he bring her next to our daughter if i say so. That night he went to sleep and i knew that he was completely devastated and sad and ashamed for his mother so i had my reasons and i checked his phone. I know its not an excuse but at the time i thought that if i know what he was thinking and what he talked about with a specific relative of him i might be able to help him get over this easier. So i checked his phone even though i had never done previously. So even though i wasn't lokking for it i got carried away and continued scrolling and that's when i found he has been talking to a girl from China that contacted him first. They introduced themselfes and talked a bit and said good bye. A few days later my husband texted her and initiated a new conversation. She didn't reply back.

Also, a very important thing is that we have been fighting forever and and we have considered breaking up since we feel that we cant comunicate. However we talkjed and talked and decuded to figure this out and not break our family since we both shared the same needs and wants. I need to say that he stopped having sex with me when i got pregnant saying he just can't function and after having the baby he just continued to deny it by saying he is tired.

Obviously i am very concerned. He seems like he is lost, and honestly i feel like he has lost every interest in me.

I am not planning on saying anything but i really need to know if i can do anything to understand what is he missing that he needs to find elsewhere even if tht means that he will tell me he has lost his desire towards me. And how is it that he has no energy to try and fix our marriage asa couple not just parnters or parents but he has the energy to even initiate a conversation with a complete stranger.

I know we have a lot of problems to solve but having an affair its going ro be our end and i feel i have to figure this out before its too late.

I am so confused and troubled! Please guys help!