Hello!! If this isn’t allowed I’m totally OK with it being removed. I just thought this would be a good place to ask for advice. :)

My son is due in September, and we’ll be first time parents. My boyfriend is circumsised and thinks we should have our son circumsised as well. I have believed for a long time that unnecessary body modification should be up to the person whose body is being modified. Even if we were having a girl, I would not pierce her ears until she asked for it and knew what it meant.

My boyfriends arguments for it are:

- It’s easier to clean once healed

- He is circumsised so if our son were to ever see his genitals (in the shower or potty training, for example) they would be the same

- He’ll be a newborn and won’t remember the pain

My arguments against it are:

- It’s unnecessary

- You can clean a baby boy’s uncircumsised penis just as well as a circumsised penis

- It wouldn’t be that hard to explain the differences and some people get theirs done later in life anyways so he can know he always has a choice

- It takes time to heal and it hurts

I should also mention that my boyfriend is quite salty about it because he wanted our son to be a junior and I did not (he gets his last name anyways, why his first and middle too?), and my boyfriend also expressed that he didn’t want me to breastfeed without a cover and I told him it’s my body and I’ll breastfeed how I want. Essentially, he’s kind of feeling like I’m making all the choices.

So, what do you all think?