Hookup/FWB/Tinder

I’m 20 and recently got out of a relationship and aren’t at a place in life where I feel as though I can have another relationship (family issues, trying to figure out what I want to do in life, etc.) I want a consistent f buddy, not too big on one night stands. And no I’m not trying to “rebound” or use sex as a way of getting over my ex, that relationship was horrible and he wasn’t a good person, NEVER going back! I’m contemplating on getting on Tinder!

Although I guess I’ll hear men talk about females and how they’re “hoes” or that they’re “easy” blah blah blah. I don’t really want that image lol like of course no one will know besides me and __ you know? Unless it’s someone I know and they run their mouths but idk I guess I’m overthinking it now?

Anyways, would you guys reccomend hanging out first in public? How many times? Or is it okay to go over to their place and see where things go/sleep with them? How long do you recommend speaking to them before meeting up? I’ll be honest, my last buddy, I feel like we spoke for a day or met up the same day we started talking, went over to his place and things went fine! What do you usually do though?